Thursday, November 15, 2012

Personality Types-Blue, Yellow, Green, Red


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Color Chart

While I worked in the doctor's office, few years ago, one of the nurses had all of us take this personality test to better relate to one another. It was eye-opening for me to better understand my co-workers and everyone else in my life. The most interesting thing is that my results are different now when compared to when  I took the test a few years ago, which I assume is because I have changed as a person. I was tied Red and Blue when I took it at the doctor's office. I posted my current results below. I am a blue, with red and green close runner-ups.

To take the test, go across each row with the square in each that you identify the most with the highest number. For example: if you are a methodical planner, next rational and curious, then cooperative and idealistic, with spontaneous and Impulsive last: it would be a 4 in yellow, 3 in green, 2 in blue, and 1 in red. Once you complete each row across, add the numbers in each color column. My results are below for example.

Red Yellow Blue Green
First Row Spontaneous, Impulsive, Impetuous Stable, Methodical, Planner Cooperative, Idealistic, Wants Harmony Rational, Curious, Complex
Second Row Adventurous, Daring, In a Hurry Traditional, Responsible, Dependable Catalyst, Compassionate, Inspirational Logical Analytical, Loner
Third Row Love Excitement, Explorer, Unpredictable Dutiful, Teacher, Industrious Authentic, Empathic, Motivator Intellectual, Inventive, Problem-solver
Fourth Row Energetic, Expedient, Jokester Makes Rules, Orderly, Prepares Supportive, Self-Aware, Caring System-Thinker, Independent, Perfectionist
Fifth Row Bold, Witty, Risk-taker Loyal, Reliable, Likes Structure Romantic, Flexible, Self-actualizing Theoretical, Ingenious, Individualist
Total- Total- Total- Total-

YELLOW 
Responsibility
I value rules, tradition, and authority. I have a clear idea of what people should do. I want to belong. I handle details well, and I'm a hard-worker. I am useful, productive, a contributor. I like to care for others--look out for them. I want to anticipate and prepare for the future. The home & family are the core of society. It's important to have rules, laws and control. I appreciate awards and public recognition. I demonstrate my love in practical ways.

Strengths
1. Loyal
2. Dependable
3. Punctual
4. Trustworthy
5. Structured


Weaknesses
1. Resistant to change
2. Conservative
3. Rigid
4. Easily flustered in situations of change


Needs others to provide
1. Follow through on details
2. Focus on tasks
3. Logical approach


RED
Adventure
I like being free to do things on my own way. Where are the new frontiers? I want to explore. Life is a wonderful game--let's play! Where's the action (or problem), let me at em! Variety and excitement are fun and stimulating. Give me a challenge--I'll handle it now! I love the spotlight--watch me perform. Let's find a new and different way to do it. Freedom is important to me, don't fence me in. Rules that don't make sense can be broken. Bells are for ringing and mountains for climbing.

 Strengths
1. Getting immediate results
2. Making quick decisions
3. Persistence
4. Solving problems
5. Taking charge
6. Looking self reliant
7. Accepting challenges

Weaknesses
1. Insensitivity towards others
2. Impatient
3. Overlook risks
4. Inflexibility, demanding of others
5. Talks too much
6. Inattentive to details at times
7. Resenting of restrictions

Needs others to provide
1. Attention to routine tasks
2. Caution
3. Focus on details and facts

GREEN
Curiosity
Searching, learning, and understanding are fun. I love puzzles, problems, and finding solutions. I like to work independently. Intelligence, justice and fairness are important. I want to be correct--to do things right. It would be great fun to explore the universe. Once I've found the solution, the others and take over and put it into action. My calm exterior may hide some inner turmoil. I love to create a brand new idea. Being competent is absolutely essential. I want my brain to manage my emotions.

Strengths 
1. Supportive
2. Agreeable
3. Loyal
4. Self control
5. Consistent
6. Good listener
7. Independent

Weaknesses
1. Resist change
2. Trouble making deadlines
3. Overly lenient with people
4. Procrastinates
5. Indecisive
6. Holds grudges
7. Overly possessive
Needs others to provide
1. Push to try new challenges
2. Help in solving difficult problems
3. Initiative and accepting change

BLUE
Relationships are important to me. I want to have lots of friends--share and care. I have integrity, I'm authentic and unique. I like helping others become what they can be. Emotions are okay, and I show mine easily. People are lots more important than things. I enjoy flowers, music, and romantic movies. I love to help friends solve their problems. My hunches work. I'm very intuitive. Empathy and sympathy are both easy for me. I thrive on recognition and acceptance. I'm really good at motivating people.
Strengths
1. Orderliness
2. Conscientious
3. Compassionate
4. Creative
5. Imaginative
6. Diplomatic with people
7. Analytical

Weaknesses
1. Indecisive (looking at all data)
2. Get bogged down in details
3. Rigid on the "how to's"
4. Avoids controversy
5. Low self esteem
6. Hesitant to try new things
7. Sensitive to criticism

Needs others to provide
1. Quick decision making
2. Help in persuading others
My Results:
 

Red
Yellow
Blue
Green
First Row
Spontaneous, Impulsive, Impetuous         2
Stable, Methodical, Planner         1
Cooperative, Idealistic, Wants Harmony           4
Rational, Curious, Complex          3
Second Row
Adventurous, Daring, In a Hurry 2
Traditional, Responsible, Dependable       1
Catalyst, Compassionate, Inspirational        4
Logical Analytical, Loner               3
Third Row
Love Excitement, Explorer, Unpredictable   3
Dutiful, Teacher, Industrious        1
Authentic, Empathic, Motivator 4
Intellectual, Inventive, Problem-solver             2
Fourth Row
Energetic, Expedient, Jokester 4
Makes Rules, Orderly, Prepares 1
Supportive, Self-Aware, Caring    3
System-Thinker, Independent, Perfectionist   2
Fifth Row
Bold, Witty, Risk-taker               4
Loyal, Reliable, Likes Structure  1
Romantic, Flexible, Self-actualizing   3
Theoretical, Ingenious, Individualist    2

Total-15
Total-5
Total-18
Total- 12


 Since I have some Blue, Green, and Red tendencies, it explains why I sometimes feel like I am more than one person rolled into one. I love to play practical jokes on people, yet when something is bothering me, I retreat into my own head like a turtle into its shell. I love being around people, but most of the time I prefer to be alone or just with my family, especially when I'm going through something difficult.One thing I am definitely not is traditional, and the yellows are the people I have the hardest time relating to.

Below is another personality type article that I found interesting.I think I am a combination of analytical and expressive.

More information from:
Personality Types Communication Styles

A simple way of personality typing

All of this is only useful if you can easily establish the personality type of both yourself and the other people involved, and often it’s not appropriate to ask. Luckily, Industrial psychologist David Merrill came up with a handy alternative back in 1921, when he realised we could usually ‘type’ people by watching their behaviour. Merrill called his types, ‘communication styles’, and named them:
  • Analytical
  • Amiable
  • Expressive
  • Driver
The characteristics of his personality types share commonalities with the types identified by most of the popular typologies:

Analyticals like a lot of data in order to make decisions – information is their comfort zone. For this reason, decisions can take a long time, because Analyticals need to be sure. They are not good with blue-sky thinking or with taking fuzzy orders, especially if they have to hurry or approximate anything. They like detailed reports and well-worked arguments. They will talk through points at length, often frustrating Driver and Expressive personality types. They are less tuned in to abstract concepts and inferences than other types. They are often happiest working alone.

Amiable personality types are the faithful Labradors of the personality set. Without them, no work would get done. They are the grafters, the planners, the cheerful completers. They can do anything, and if they can’t, they know a man who can. They are the conscience of any project, making sure everyone who needs to be told or consulted about something is told or consulted. They are tolerant, and will be the quickest to forgive the extremes of the other styles. They will work until the job is done. They love to be asked for their opinion or for help, and can take a lot of responsibility, but they dislike uncertainty, so have your broad plan or direction, and your desired outcomes, worked out before roping them in.

Expressive personality types are the cheerful advocates of the profile set. They are sociable and happy, the loudest voices in the office, along with Amiables the best networked, and the ones most likely to drag everyone off to the pub. An Expressive will finish your sentence. They are imaginative and creative, and will take your idea and build it into something you never dreamed it could be. Expressives are approximate, fast-moving, broad-brush and blue-sky. They don’t do detail, and they hate slowing down. They tend not to deal with conflict well, because they want everyone to be happy and comfortable.

Drivers are the managing director personality types. They are natural leaders, making decisions quickly and delegating naturally. They are fast-moving and results-driven; often frustrated by others’ preference for caution and detail. They can be prone to aggression, and to leaving people behind as they punch through barriers, but they will deliver the job on time, under budget, and with all measures exceeded, albeit with a few casualties along the way. They have and set clear vision, and are generally good motivators of others.
It is useful to picture the personalities on a wheel, so that their interplay can be more easily seen. Drivers are opposite personality types to Amiables, and Analyticals are opposite Expressives.
A similar ‘shorthand’ for personality types has been adopted by the Insights organisation (http://www.insights.co.uk). Insights use colour-coded the types, so that (as a rough correlation), Analyticals are blue, Amiables are green, Expressives are yellow and Drivers are red. Insights also allow for the personality types which sit between the predominant four, so, on a wheel, a person might be a red-blue or a red-yellow or a green-blue.

















Another personality test and my results:
Human Metrics-Personality Test
My results from the Human Metrics Test:
INFJ
Introvert(39%)  Intuitive(62%)  Feeling(75%)  Judging(22%)
  • You have moderate preference of Introversion over Extraversion (39%)
  • You have distinctive preference of Intuition over Sensing (62%)
  • You have distinctive preference of Feeling over Thinking (75%)
  • You have slight preference of Judging over Perceiving (22%)

Friday, November 2, 2012

School Functions and Co-Parenting

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My post next week for Her View from Home is about divorce and school functions. I try to post similar, yet different information on this blog.

So many things can contribute to how school functions during and after divorce are handled. No matter what is happening or has already happened, your children need you to be the adult, swallow your pride, and shut your mouth around your ex. It isn't easy, as a matter of fact, it just plain sucks at times, BUT it must be done for the sake of the children.

The middle school orientation was tough for my daughter last year. My ex husband met us at the school (us being my husband, Bob, and my other daughter, Cami) and brought his baby. He didn't bring a diaper bag or a car seat into the school. Her baby brother barfed on a teacher's leg in the cafeteria and all over the linoleum floor. My youngest scrambled to find napkins for her dad, who had vomit on him as well, while the middle-schooler hid her red face. Each time we walked into a classroom to meet one of her teachers, the teacher would look at each of us, pleading for a clue to who's who with their confused gaze. From that point on, Ali asked that we not all go to her orientation.

We try to listen to her input and plan accordingly, as long as not having all parents there does not interfere with anything. I think that is the most important thing that someone divorced can do, is listen to your children, and to remember who is the adult. It is not easy to put feelings aside. Concentrate on the child. Keep the relationship with the ex cordial and business-like.

Check out more on the topic on Her View From Home

The below information is from:

Tips for Coparents Who Attending School Events

How to Handle School School Events Like Back-to-School-Night & Conferences

By ennifer Wolf:
Single Parents School Functions

1. Make an Effort to Attend Your Child's School Events

Attending school events is an extremely important way to show your children how much you support them. Of course, there will be times when you have scheduling conflicts and valid reasons why you cannot attend. However, when you can go to events like Back-to-School-Night or a special concert, play, or sporting event, make the effort to be present. Don't let hesitation over seeing the other parent keep you from being at events that mean a lot to your children.

2. Focus on the Kids During School Events

Remember, it's for your children's benefit that you want to attend school events. This is not for the purpose of making an impression on your ex, school personnel, or anyone else. Instead, you're doing this because it's an important part of playing an active role in your children's lives. Don't make the mistake of underestimating how powerful your involvement really is.

3. Coordinate With Your Ex Regarding School

Communicate with one another beforehand so that there are no surprises at the event. Also, remember that you don't have to drive to the function together or even sit together. If the event is parent-teacher conferences, you can opt to request separate meetings with your child's teacher. However, it is important that you keep your meeting focused on your child's progress, not your personal situation.

4. Be Courteous to One Another at School Events

When you see your ex at the event, make an effort to be courteous. This means, at the very least, acknowledging his or her presence with a nod or a wave. Even if your situation is extremely contentious, make an effort to treat your ex as you'd like to be treated yourself. This sets an important example for your children about your ability to put your differences aside and get along for their sake.

5. Tolerate Some Discomfort For the Sake of Your Child

Frankly, the need to attend school events at the same time will probably make you feel uncomfortable for quite a while, especially if you are newly divorced or separated. If it is helpful to you, make plans to attend the event with a friend or neighbor. The distraction of making small talk and knowing ahead of time who you'll be sitting with may help you tolerate some of the discomfort and focus on enjoying the event.


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